I have recently started posting on how I have started hunting for my own home (as opposed to an investment property) and how I seriously underestimated the level of house prices in Australia. Indeed one of the things in that latter post which shocked me the most was that I ended up looking "where my parents lived". This post is to examine why so many people have this viewpoint and how it can create real disappointment when it comes to house hunting, especially if you were brought up in an upper middle class or affluent area.
The desire to do better than our parents is a goal shared by many people
Almost everyone has a desire to achieve something in their life. It does not need to be financial (although in my case it is) but almost all of us have hopes and dreams that we hope to fulfil in our life. When thinking about our goals and objectives our base line is often set by the example of those closest to us - our parents.
This does not mean that we in any way diminish what they have achieved in their life - we are often proud of what they have accomplished (sometimes in the face of great adversity). It is just that when we set our own goals and objectives, our parents achievements are our 'norm'. It is what we have grown up with and we do not experience the harder times when they were much younger - we experience the pinnacle of their achievement (when we are of an age to appreciate the way in which they live).
With this 'base line' set our goal is all to often to live our own life and achieve our own goals. Our goals, however, are often set at a level higher than our parents achieved because this is 'improving our lot in life'. It is not a particularly revolutionary idea or statement - in fact I think most people would share this way of thinking and living.
However, when we go to buy our first house...we often find ourselves going backwards
This desire and goal is
The desire to do better than our parents is a goal shared by many people
Almost everyone has a desire to achieve something in their life. It does not need to be financial (although in my case it is) but almost all of us have hopes and dreams that we hope to fulfil in our life. When thinking about our goals and objectives our base line is often set by the example of those closest to us - our parents.
This does not mean that we in any way diminish what they have achieved in their life - we are often proud of what they have accomplished (sometimes in the face of great adversity). It is just that when we set our own goals and objectives, our parents achievements are our 'norm'. It is what we have grown up with and we do not experience the harder times when they were much younger - we experience the pinnacle of their achievement (when we are of an age to appreciate the way in which they live).
With this 'base line' set our goal is all to often to live our own life and achieve our own goals. Our goals, however, are often set at a level higher than our parents achieved because this is 'improving our lot in life'. It is not a particularly revolutionary idea or statement - in fact I think most people would share this way of thinking and living.
However, when we go to buy our first house...we often find ourselves going backwards
This desire and goal is